Getting blindsided by a breakup can make it feel like the end of the world, what will you do now? But knowing the signs to look out for or getting one step ahead of the game and doing it yourself can help you feel a little more in control and ready to move on.
A change in personality can mean other things, like depression, stress or anxiety, so it’s best to talk it through with your partner if you notice any number of these signs. But be aware, there’s usually some reason why a person changes and it’s best to know what that is.
- He cancels and stops making plans
- He refuses to go anywhere with you
- He no longer talks about things in the future
- ‘I love you’ becomes a rare saying
- Not much is said in person
- He’s inconsiderate
- He wants to assess the relationship
- You're not the person he turns to
- He gets frustrated easily
- You don’t communicate as much
- You annoy him at every turn
- The time you spend alone together is stale
- Every conversation turns into a fight
- He asks for space
- What to do when you notice these signs
He cancels and stops making plans
If you’re used to seeing him quite frequently and all of a sudden he stops making plans, using every excuse under the sun not to see you and bails last minute, then he’s trying to get away from talking to you.
He refuses to go anywhere with you
He’s trying to distance himself from you, and the last thing he’s going to want to do is to act like a happy couple in front of others.
He no longer talks about things in the future
Talking about the future can take a lot of stress and doubt away in a new relationship, even if it's just planned for the next couple of months. But when that ceases chances are he’s not thinking about a future with you in it.
‘I love you’ becomes a rare saying
When the ‘I love you’ doesn’t get said much, or when they are they seem forced, lacking meaning or purpose, then it’s time to question the relationship.
Not much is said in person
Before the change, conversations used to be interesting, meaningful and timeless. You’d have inside jokes and you’d make each other laugh. But now, things have changed and now talking in person is dry and forced. When conversations become boring and useless, it’s a big red flag that something is going wrong.
Your feelings don’t matter to him that much anymore, so he’s not going to do the small things that don’t mean much on the grand scale of things but definitely do to you on a day-to-day basis.
He wants to assess the relationship
Everything small thing requires a long discussion about it, whether it's spending time with friends or job prospects, every small thing that occurs is something that he needs to discuss and assess. It's important to note that the problems he's picking up on are all on your end, things that you need to fix rather than him.
You're not the person he turns to
When something happens in your other half's life you really want to be the person that he tells first about them if you're finding out things about him from his friends or family, there has to be a reason why he isn't confiding in you anymore.
He gets frustrated easily
Typically, when he doesn’t know exactly how to a tell you that he doesn’t want to be in the relationship any longer, he’ll get frustrated easier and start snapping.
You don’t communicate as much
Though the loss of communication doesn’t hit you right away, he will definitely slowly reduce the amount of communication you guys have. Maybe he will stop texting you as much and phone calls come to a complete cease. When communication slowly fades away, he may be plotting a way out. But he’s obviously trying to do it quietly.
You annoy him at every turn
Trust us, we can be annoying at the best of times, and sometimes it can be fun to wind up your partner, in a joking manner of course. But if you find that every single thing you do is annoying your partner, they might be bottling up feelings about breaking up with you and they're lashing out at you unfairly.
The time you spend alone together is stale
When you used to kiss there were sparks, but now there's nothing really there. The time you do spend together feels a little forced and you know that they'd rather be somewhere else. Taking off your clothes isn't always the answer either, a tough conversation might need to be had.
Every conversation turns into a fight
When simple conversations turning into fights all of the time it's clear something is wrong and he's trying his best to make sure you see him in a bad light. It's his way of trying to convince you that the relationship can't last because you're constantly bickering.
He asks for space
Asking for space could be because he needs more time alone, but he could also want to see how he'd feel if you weren't actually around. If he asks for space and comes crawling back after a while you know that he can't really be without you. It's probably a more gentle way of asking for a relationship break.
What to do when you notice these signs
It’s important that you talk to each other. Like we mentioned before his behaviour changes could be something else, but it’s important that he knows how he’s making you feel.